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Lice Lessons (On Marketing, Business and Life)

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Yeah Baby, We Have Lice … But, I’m Not Embarassed

Ok, so that’s not entirely true.

When I had to call Lesley Bohm, the amazing celebrity photographer I was supposed to have a photo shoot with today,  and tell her I couldn’t make it because I have lice, I was a little embarassed.

More than a little embarrassed.

When I first found out my daughter had it, I wanted to keep it a secret.  I wanted to tell her not to tell anyone at school.  I wanted her to make something up about why she didn’t go to school.

Fortunately, before I passed on my tendencies towards shame and hiding, I came to my senses.

I remembered that keeping secrets is the heart of just about every emotional dis-ease out there, alcoholism, drug addiction, food issues, anorexia, bulimia.  Behind each one of them is a secret that’s festered into a kink.

In each case, there’s some well-meaning parent who inadvertently conditioned his child to feel shame, embarrassment, or judgment about something and hide whatever that something is, creating a hole that needs to be filled.

Lice isn’t something to be ashamed of or embarassed about.  If you get it, it doesn’t mean you’re dirty.  (In fact, did you know that lice is more attracted to clean hair?)

The only reason we are instinctively embarrassed about it is because at some point we were conditioned to think that way.

I decided not to pass on the conditioning.

I mean yes, it’s kind of yuck-o that there are bugs laying eggs in my hair, but feeling shameful about it certainly doesn’t help the situation.

And, passing that shame/need to hide  on to my daughter is definitely not the answer.

So, I boldly picked up the phone, called the school nurse and let her know I’d be keeping Kaia home for the day and that the 3rd grade class should be checked for lice. Gulp.

(Guess what? It turns out half the school is infested, I really didn’t have anything to be embarassed about! Yay.)

I accepted the reality of the situation, and then got busy.

We went out and bought that poison stuff from the drugstore and started going through Kaia’s hair.  Then, when that didn’t seem to work that great, I got out the vinegar and went through her hair wit the nit comb dipped in vinegar, which apparently helps to unstick the nits.

To top everything off (literally), we slathered her hair with half a jar of mayonnaise and wrapped her hair in saran wrap and a shower cap before bed.

After all that, I expected we’d be cleared for school, no problem.

But, no.  When we got to school, the nurse still didn’t give Kaia (or me!) the all clear and I realized I needed to call  in reinforcements.

Hair Whispers.  For a $35 travel fee and $85/hour,  they saved the day.  (I called around and they were the least expensive.  I was quoted a $50 travel fee and $125/hour by another company and then $250/$300 by a third company).

What a great business!

Amy Goldreyer is one smart cookie.  She was even named best nitpicker by LA Weekly.  Yep, best nitpicker.

If she doesn’t have enough business via word of mouth (which I can’t imagine she doesn’t – she was mentioned in the NYT amongst celebrity baby consultants and as I sit here I just got my third email from a schoolmate friend of Kaia’s whose mom never emails me, looking for a referral to my hair fairy – the mommies are desparate!), I can suggest some quick changes to her web presence that would get her even more business.

For those of you small business owners who have been asking me for advice on marketing your businesses, here’s some good stuff for you:

Web presence suggestions –

* Create a nitpickers blog with stories about people met while nitpicking (all names disguised of course) and about how they act, what they say when they call for appointments, etc.;

* Put up an opt-in form for her nitpicker’s weekly that offers something extremely valuable, like a weekly report tracking infestations throughout the area so parents can be proactive and schools can avoid the kind of infestation our school is dealing with at the moment;

* Give affiliate commissions to referrers.  If I was getting paid, I’d email the whole school about our experience with my affiliate link included.  I may do it anyway, but only if I find an extra 15 minutes tomorrow.  If I was getting paid, I’d find the 15 minutes for sure.

* Establish a Facebook page for the business where I can become a fan and set up a Tweet that I can send out announcing I’m a fan of the business.

Hey, Amy, if you want to take this business huge, contact me.  I’d love to see it birthed out of the Millionaire Mom Business Incubator I’m launching with fellow millionaire mom Sheri McConnell (like the program name Sheri?) in 2009 as part of an incredible new association we’ve got launching.

But, even without the serious web presence, it’s a great business.

Do a little bit of marketing by making sure your brochures are in the hands of local school nurse, buy up Google Adwords for lice {local city} and lice removal {local city}, put up an informative website using the key words and keeping it updated with new information frequently, then send out young women with a cute utility bag of nitpicking tools to desperate moms who have no one else to comb lice out of their hair.

It’s a homerun.

I paid $200.39 + gave our nitpicker (who didn’t like being called that, by the way) a $20 tip to be deloused and it was well worth it.

I mean truly, what else is a mom to do?  It’s not like she can ask her husband to do it, or even a friend.

If I had nothing else going on and had to make some quick money, I’d get into the lice removal business.

I passed on Amy’s company information to at least three other desperate moms in our neighborhood already.

Here’s what I learned about lice and lice removal:

1.  The lice removal kits you buy from the drugstore are a big ripoff.  And, they poison you too.  A doubly bad combination.

2.   The little plastic comb they give you is bunk.  It doesn’t work.

3.  You can do the whole comb out deal at home without the service.  But, you need the right equipment and you DON’T need poison.

The equipment:

* A real nit comb – metal, not plastic. I recommend you buy one now to have on hand for when the lice hits your family.

* A bottle of water/conditioner mixed together

* Some type of oil – olive oil works, lavender oil.  Whatever.  The hair whisperer gal sold me a nice size bottle of their proprietary blend for $20.  Whole Foods wanted $30 for a teeny bottle of lavender oil, so I felt good about my purchase.

* Paper towels

* A bowl of water

That’s it.  No poison necessary.  Total cost minus the cute gal to comb your hair for you?  About $30.

The difficult part is the combing out of the nits/lice.

It was done totally differently than I expected.

There were three steps, which took a total of about an hour.  The key seemed to be running the comb through your hair vigorously from forehead over top of scalp and off back of hair with various substances combed through hair.

(It actually felt kind of nice – we sat out in the sun on my front patio area during the combing and for a few minutes I imagined I was at a high end spa, having a head treatment outside – ahhhh, I love having my hair played with).

It’d be nearly impossible to do to yourself, I imagine.  And not nearly as enjoyable.

Overall, my personal lesson from the whole day is there’s never anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.  There’s so much to enjoy about and learn from every experience … even lice.

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What To Do When It’s Thanksgiving And You Aren’t Feeling Grateful

turkeyIt’s the eve of Thanksgiving and truthfully I’m not feeling particularly grateful at the moment.   And of course I feel guilty for not feeling grateful because honestly I have so freakin’ much to be grateful for.

My loving boyfriend and I took my kids to see the magical night of lights in a nearby town and ate tons of junk food and rode lots of rides.  Despite the fact that the kids complained and bickered the whole way back (payback for the years of bickering me and my sister subjected our parents to), it was a fantastic night.

We dropped $100+ on food and entertainment without batting an eye and with everything going on the world right now that alone is something to be grateful about.

I’m in Atlanta visiting my honey, who is my dream guy in so many ways, and we’ll introduce our children to each other tomorrow night for the first time.  And last night his ex intimated that she may even be willing to meet me one day, something I’ve hoped would happen for quite a while.  More to be grateful about.

I have an amazing team supporting me both at home and in my business and a great relationship with my ex-husband for the first time in years, all of which allows me to be an empire-building mommy and know that my kids and my house will be well cared for even when I’m traveling and working.

I’m appearing regularly on TV and just got an email from someone who saw me on CNBC tonight without me even telling them I was going to be on. And, Tuesday I’ll be in the Better TV studios taping my weekly segments.

Earlier today I got to spend time coaching a friend off the ledge of a potential legal nightmare that could have blown up her life had she taken her lawyer’s advice and into a space of love and acceptance for what is that could show her a whole new purpose for the events that have led up to the situation.

My family is healthy, safe and secure and they love me.

Feeling grateful because you should and actually feeling gratitude are two very different experiences.  So, why am I not feeling all of that gratitude inside my body?   And, am I insane for admitting it here when everyone else is posting their cheery “what I’m grateful for today” messages?

More importantly, why am I posting it here?

I’m posting it here because I believe my awareness about this may help you.  Because maybe you have a lot to feel grateful for as well and yet you aren’t feeling it and don’t know why.  And, because this blog is about being afraid and doing it anyway.

I’m not feeling grateful in my body though all outward appearances suggest I should be dancing in the streets and screaming in joy because I have not been doing a good job of taking care of myself physically, emotionally or spiritually.   And when I don’t take care of myself, it doesn’t matter how great things look on the outside, they start to crumble on the inside.

For the past three days, I have eaten horribly and done no exercise at all.  I have not really meditated.  Not gotten enough sleep.  Allowed my attention to be focused on small things that take me away from my greater purpose.  And, realized that a huge part of my purpose is to bring more faith and love into people’s lives and I’m so caught up in my money-making business ventures that I’m not investing my time or energy on what brings true meaning to my life everyday – sharing my faith in God, the Universe, Spirit, Love.

Worst of all, I’ve convinced myself that it’s fine not to do the things I know are important because it’s the holidays and we are traveling and …. well, you know the rationalization drill, don’t you?

It’s a long, sad road to ingratitude is what it is.  Fortunately, the road back can be short and gleeful.

Here’s what helped me.

Just sitting down and writing all of this out helped tremendously because it was a visual reminder of all that I have to be grateful for and oftentimes you just need to write it down to really feel it.

Next, I’ve made a commitment to myself that tomorrow I am going to exercise, no matter what.  My body is already getting excited about that.

Last, before I go to bed tonight, I am going to write the outline for my next book, which I got the inspiration for tonight: From Fear Into Faith: The Step by Step Guide to Co-Creating the Life of Your Dreams.

So, if it’s Thanksgiving and you aren’t feeling particularly grateful, know that you are not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you.  Know as well that it’s a sign that there’s some incongruity happening in your life (a disconnect between what you really want and what you are allowing yourself to create) and there are concrete action steps you can take right now to turn it around.

Go get a pen and paper and give me 10 minutes of your time.  I’ll get you into gratitude and give you an action plan for living everyday from here out gratefully.

Ready?  Here we go.

Right now, take a deep breath and now another.  Allow the feeling of your breath make it’s way down into the deepest part of your belly and feel how the warmth of your breath radiates from your core and caresses the inside of the skin of your arms all the way to your fingers and the inside of the skin of your legs down to your toes.

Now, do that again.

Write down one good thing happening in your life.  Now, another.  Then, as many as you can.  If it’s only one, that’s okay.  Focus your attention on that thing and take another deep, cleansing breath.  The kind that you can feel all the way into the base of your lower back.

Ok, now, from that place, write down the first answer that comes to your mind that answers this question: if you knew you’d be successful doing anything in the world and money was of zero concern, what would you be doing?

Last, commit to yourself that everyday for now on you will do something that gets you closer to doing whatever that thing is.  Write down that commitment to yourself, fold up the piece of paper you wrote on and put it somewhere you’ll see it frequently, like in your wallet, where you’ll see it when you want to spend money to compensate for not doing what your purpose is.

The next time you are not feeling grateful, pull out that piece of paper and renew your commitment to yourself.  You deserve it.

Ah, doesn’t that feel better?  Grateful now?  I am.  Thanks.


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Can You See the ALL Good … Even (Especially) Now?

What an incredible weekend.  Dave through me a surprise birthday dinner party on Friday night.  I knew he was doing something special, but I didn’t know what.  Well, he invited over 15 of my friends, cooked an elaborate and delicious 5 course meal and then put on an awe-inspiring mind reading show.  Here’s a little sneak peak of the night:

Then, Saturday night, Dave and I attended the Agape International Spiritual Center 22nd Anniversary Party at Shutters on the Beach in Santa Monica.  Here’s a 15-second video of me and the Rev. – Michael Bernard Beckwith getting our photo taken.

At church today, I was reminded by the Rev. of the truth and now I’m sharing it with you because I think so many of us have lost sight of what’s really happening out there.

We are getting so caught up in the fear, lack, limitation and scarcity being bandied about that it can be difficult to see through to the truth.

Here’s what I know to be true.

Something new and wonderful is emerging.  Yes, Wall Street is failing.  Yes, the big 3 automakers are failing.  Yes, our credit system is failing.

And, it’s time to celebrate.

The existing paradigm is outdated, broken, and in need of transformation.  What has to happen for the caterpillar to emerge as a butterfly?  The caterpillar has to disappear.

That’s what’s happening here as well.  We can choose to look at it as if the world is coming to an end or we can see the beginning of something beautiful.  Our perspective will make the difference between suffering or celebration.

What do you choose?  I choose to celebrate.

I choose to celebrate whatever is next.  I choose to celebrate the unknown, the mystery, the possibilities.

Reverend Michael pointed out that the big 3 are making fuel efficient cars overseas.  Why not here?  We wouldn’t have blocked the rise of computers to save the typewriter industry, would we?

Something bigger is coming, something better is coming, something transformational is coming.

It’s ALL GOOD.  Welcome it.  Step off into the unknown with the faith of knowing that all your needs are met in every moment.  Even now.

I can hear many of you saying “how can I do that when things are looking so bad for me?  I’ve lost my job or I’m about to lose my job.  I have credit card debt up to my eyeballs. I’m going to lose my house.  Alexis, this airy-fairy stuff is great for you and Rev. Michael who have plenty, but not for me.  I don’t have enough.”

Ok, let’s talk about that.

I know you are scared.  Of course you are.  Change is scary, especially when it’s not self-initiated and feels as if its just been thrust upon you.

But, it’s very likely also out of your control.  Can you force your employer to hire you back or keep you if you are on the verge?  Can you save your house now?

If your answer is yes to any of these things because you can take some action that might turn things around, do it.  Take the action.  Don’t bury your head in the sand.

For example, if you are about to lose your house, have you exhausted every possibility you can for information about how you might save it?  Have you already tried to get a modification of your loan?  What else have you done?

If you’ve done everything you can, you have to move into acceptance of what is.  What else can you do?

Sure, you can rail against what is, but if you can’t change it, you’re creating suffering for yourself.

In this moment, you have a choice between suffering and celebration.  You can choose to allow yourself to feel excitement about the new possibilities that are facing you now that you don’t have that job that was keeping you in your comfort zone of mediocrity.  Allow yourself to open up to what’s happening and say “okay Universe, what do you have next for me?”

What new world is out there for you?

If you can approach life from this perspective, the whole world will open up and deliver to you delightful experiences.  If instead, you choose to approach life with an attitude of defeat, fear, and lack, you will get more of the same.

So, in this moment, do this:

Close your eyes.  Take a deep breath in.  Let the air fill your lungs.  Feel how every one of your needs are met in this very moment.   In this moment you have access to everything you need, food, shelter, clothing, internet, love.  It’s all here for you now.

Repeat everytime you feel afraid.  And keep moving forward with wonder about the possibilities.


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Ready to Uplevel Your Life?

diamond-crown-pin I’ve been thinking small.

That may sound shocking to some of you who have seen me do some amazing things over the past 6 months – tv show, pilot for a radio program, bestselling book to name a few – but, I just got back from an event with Alexandria Brown, the former “E-zine Queen” and now inspiration to women world-wide, where I came face to face with my small thinking.  And, it wasn’t pretty.

I’ve made a huge shift in my thinking and made the decision to let go of a lot of the little stuff that has been keeping me small.

Like what, you ask …

Small thing #1:  I’m not a mommy blogger.

Over the past 6 months, I’ve tried to fit in as a mommy blogger.  I went to BlogHer.   I became a blogging mom at LAMomsBlog.  I tried to fit in with the mommy blogging crowd on Twitter and even spoke on a mommy blogger panel.  In each and every instance, I felt out of place.  Like I didn’t fit in.  As we tend to do, I blamed myself.  I thought if only I did x better or y more, I’d be accepted. Um, no!  I wasn’t fitting in because that’s not who I am.

I’m building an empire, not a blog.

Small thing #2:  Email.

I cannot keep up with my email.  My inbox has gotten out of control.  I came back from Ali’s event to more than 400 emails in my inbox and that was with me checking my iPhone throughout the event and deleting.  300 of those emails had been read and were waiting response from me.   The other 100 were the ones I had not deleted from the iPhone because they needed more in depth review.  I am constantly checking my email and not working on my next book, not planning my next big thing, and not being present in my life.  I cannot do it anymore.

I will no longer be handling my personal email.  It’s getting turned over to one of my assistants.  So, don’t email me anything truly private.  Call instead.

Small thing #3:  Twitter.

I love to connect with people.  And so I found myself using Twitter in an unhealthy (for me) way.  I’ve heard Tim Ferriss talk and talk about how he uses Twitter as a way to send out real micro blogs that are useful and not as another inbox.  I thought that was good for him, but didn’t apply to me.  I was wrong.  It does apply to me.  I cannot afford to have another inbox.  It’s taking me away from my bigger purpose.

It’s been great for little things like meeting moms for networking, but the moms I was meeting are moms who are spending all day on Twitter, not moms who are building their empires.  Well, that’s not entirely true … Carrie Wilkerson (@barefoot_exec)  is a mom building an empire and Jessica Smith (@JessicaKnows) seems to be doing some big stuff and Gabrielle Blair (@designmom), co-founder of Kirtsy, definitely has some empire building going on, and I met them on Twitter.  But, I would have met Carrie or Jessica in some other way  that would take less of my mental energy if that was meant to be and I actually met Gabrielle at the conference where I was a mommy blogger panelist.

I can’t say I’m not going to tweet anymore, but it will be less and with awareness that I’m avoiding my bigger purpose.

Small thing #4:  Lawsuits.

As some of you may remember, I fired a pregnant woman who was working with my team back in April.  She had been stealing from me and disclosing confidential company information.  And, she sabotaged the sale of my law firm.  These things cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars. If not more.   And, now she has brought a labor board claim against me.  I was considering filing a lawsuit against her for the damages she caused.  Yes, I’ve invested time and money in having the complaint drafted and yes I could win and get a judgment against her, but what I know is that the greater cost of the lawsuit in terms of the time and energy I’d have taken away from building my future could be into the millions.

So, rather than investing another dime into her, I let go of the whole thing with one simple email to my lawyer “I have decided not to pursue the lawsuit at this time.  Thanks.”   No more stepping over dollars to get to dimes.

Small thing #5: Facebook.

I’ve spent an untold number of hours on Facebook looking up people from high school.  Embarrassing, but true.  Living in the past.  And not even a past I enjoyed.  High school was a nightmare.  Why in the world would I have any desire to go back there?

I’m not gonna do it anymore.

Each of these small things has taken time away from my bigger vision.  Time away from my kids.  Time away from my future.  I was so stuck in the middle of each of these things I didn’t even realize how I was cheating myself.

Then, I got to Ali Brown’s last ever Online Success Blueprint Workshop.

I almost didn’t go.  I had told myself I’m already successful on the internet.  I mean I’ve got a Twitter grade of 99.6 out of 100, a Twinfluence rank of 99% (as if these things actually mean anything) and thousands of people who subscribe to my weekly online magazine for parents who want financial freedom.  What else can I learn, right?  Ha!

(Hint: Anytime you find yourself saying “I already know that” – watch out, that’s your ego talking and it’s blocking your success in a big bad kind of way.)

Fortunately, I got over myself and admitted I’d been watching Ali from a distance for nearly 4 years, learning from the same mentors, attending the same events and LOVED the way she was putting what we were learning into action.   And, the event was going to be in LA.   And I was done letting my ego stand in the way of learning from a true master.

So, I bought the not inexpensive ticket and sprung for one for the COO of my company, too and dropped Ali an email that said “Ali, I’m coming.  Finally.”  She wrote back and told me to expect transformation.

Ooookaaaayyy, I thought.  I’m not sure how I’m going to get transformed at an internet marketing event, but ok, I’ll keep an open mind.

Well, guess what?  Ali delivered on her promise.

The transformation came not from the material, though you will see a huge shift in our websites over the coming 6 weeks based on what I learned at the workshop (I literally re-designed our websites and wrote all new copy while sitting in my chair at the conference); it came from watching Ali step into a whole new level of being at this event.

She launched a magazine, a boutique and an extraordinary coaching program (her Million Dollar Protégé Club) with the diamond level requiring a 6-figure investment to join – yes, you did read that right.  6 figures to join.

And, I applied.  As soon as I did, my mind expanded and I realized all of the ways I’d been sabotaging my dreams.  I’d been playing small.  And, I’m done with that.  I’m uplevelling my life in a big way.

Do you think I’m scared?  Yep, you betcha, yepper, mmhmmm.  Yes, I’m scared.

I’ve been up at 3am the past two nights in a row because my mind is going nuts.  But, I’ve also realized that over the past 6 months I’ve gotten into a comfort zone.  In that time, I havn’t cried even once.  I was starting to stagnate.  I was frequently grumpy and felt stuck.

Taking it out on Dave.  My team.  My kids.

Sure, from the outside everything looked great.  Million dollar businesses, happy kids, great relationship, beach house.  But, inside, I was dying.  And, I couldn’t figure out why.

All I knew was I was going numb again.  I spent a lot of time praying “God, please show me the way.”  Asking for guidance, my next teacher, guide, mentor and coach.

And she showed up and asked me for more than I was prepared to give.   (As Ali was introducing the Millionaire Protege Club, I was praying the elite Diamond level would have a less than $50,000 price tag …  it didn’t.)

And I said yes! (I’ll find out next week whether she said yes to me too – 20 women are applying for only 10-12 spots!!!)

I said yes to the bigger life I’ve been longing for, but been afraid to embrace.  I said yes to myself.

In the past 24 hours since I said yes, I’ve started feeling again.  I’ve cried (and laughed) at least every 3 hours over this time.  And, I’ve felt the total and complete support of the people closest to me.  The people who count.

I have no doubt there are people who will think I am insane for investing six figures in a coaching program.  People who think this is the time to save money.  People who think “how can she do that with the economy the way it is? Who does she think she is? You could feed so many families with that money.”

Those aren’t my people.  Or, they are the people who secretly wish they were my people, but are too afraid to uplevel their own life.

Yes, there is a lot that I could do with that money.  I could hire another person in my company.  I could do a lot of public relations or marketing.  I could put a down payment on real estate.  I could buy undervalued stocks.  I could tithe it to my church.  I could feed homeless people.  I could pay off some debt.  The list is endless.

But, here’s what I know.  There is no better investment I could make than investing in myself.  Than surrounding myself with other big thinkers who will help me turn that $100,000 investment into a billion dollars.  Imagine how I can change the world then …

The Intrepid Mompreneur is about living big.  And, I’m talking Oprah, Madonna, Bill Gates and Hugh Hefner big.  That’s the life I want.  That’s the life I deserve.  That’s the life I will have.

It’s about being afraid and doing it anyway.

And, I am.  How about you?


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In NYC … Mommy Blogger Panel, CNBC, and Focus

I was supposed to get my hair done this morning at 6a in preparation for the Mommy Blogger Monologue meeting hosted by Maria Bailey of BSM Media and Mom Talk Radio in conjunction with the Marketing to Moms Coalition.

Just as I was about to get into the cab for the ride down to the salon, I got a call from my assistant (it’s 5a where she lives), letting me know that my hairdresser left the keys to the salon in his other jacket and was not going to be able to do my hair.

Ok, great.

Thank god for this cute little flower/headband I bought from Anthroplogie.  I stuck my hair in a bun, put on the headband and headed down to the event.  I’ll post a video a little later taken by Gabrielle Blair of DesignMom and Kirtsy when she sends me the link so you can see the cute headband.

On the panel, besides myself and Gabrielle, were Kimberly Coleman, Kelcey K., Amy O., Kim P., Amy Platt, and Andi Silverman.  These are some of the hippest mom bloggers out there and I was honored to be on the panel with them.

But, being on the panel with them made me question a few things.  Do I need to focus more?  Can I focus?  What would I focus on if I chose to focus?

I blog here about my entrepreneurial journey, I write the Family Wealth Secrets online magazine to bring you more financial freedom, I’m training Personal Family Lawyers, I’ve created the Kids Protection Plan and I’m launching the Kids Protection Planning Kit and in 2009 an amazing online version and I’m pitching a TV show and meeting with CNBC later on today.  Not to mention the next two books are in the works and I am looking for partners to build the Moms Money Matters website, which I want to launch Mother’s Day 2009.

And, of course, I’m raising my kids.

So, am I nuts or what?

Then, I look at someone like Maria Bailey and I think focus shmocus.  She’s got 4 kids, a nationally syndicated radio show for moms, she’s the Founder/CEO of, the award winning Website for executive working mothers and co-Founder of   Plus, she’s the host of The Balancing Act on Lifetime TV and she’s the creator of Smart Mom Solutions, a product line that offers solutions to everyday challenges for busy moms.  She’s also got a consulting company, BSM Media that works with the big corporations who want to reach the moms and has authored three books on marketing to Moms, Marketing to Moms, Trillion Dollar Moms, and her newest release Mom 3.0.

That’s what I call one busy Mompreneur!

If I had to focus, I guess I’d focus on the TV shows and training the Personal Family Lawyers.  But, the TV shows are out of my control at this point.  And, that would mean I’d have to give up writing this blog, writing books, the Kids Protection Plan, and the Family Wealth Secrets online magazine.

So, I guess for today, there will not be more focus.  Maybe things will take longer to happen.  Or, maybe I’ll sleep less.  But, that’s what being a mompreneur is all about, right?

Oh, and about that CNBC thing.  Yes, I’m meeting with the development team at CNBC later today.  I’m excited and nervous.  I’m going in to hear what they have to say because at this point, I have no idea.  I’ll report back as soon as I have some news.


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Going Within Again …. Come Along?

Over the past 5 years, as I’ve built first my law firm and now the Family Wealth Planning Institute, I’ve noticed cycles during which I’ve focused heavily on the business and other times in which I’ve focused more internally.

None of the business stuff would have (or could have) happened at all had I not first done some serious internal healing that allowed me to grow in awareness, wake up to my Truth and step into my authentic self.

This email below from my good friend, Max Simon, founder of the SelfCentered movement explains way better than I ever could why this is so important.

This past weekend I got to spend time with Max at one of his SelfCentered events (where I got to take part in both a drum circle and a public display of meditation!) and I feel myself entering back into a cycle where my businesses are running really well and need me less and I am ready to go within again.

When you go within, you find a space where everything is possible.  It’s the precursor to everything else you want in life.

Here’s why:


“I like what you’re saying but I have a question, what does
awareness even mean?”

This is the question I got from a sweet young college girl
this weekend during the Yoga Month Festival where we had our
own 1800 square foot tent. After a few moments, I responded
with “Awareness means being willing to look; at yourself, at
your life, and at the world. But instead of seeing only what
you want, you see what is, and instead of reacting like you
have, you respond in a new way that supports and lifts up
everyone and everything.”

As though she had been in this conversation a thousand times
before, she immediately responded with: “But it doesn’t feel
good when I look at those things. Everything I see scares
me. How do I become aware when I feel so scared?”

“Look deeper.”

Our (external) world is in a scary place right now. The
political battlefield is raging out of control, the economy
has filed for workers compensation, and people’s stress
levels are rising by the minute.

Take a deep breath with me: Inhale. Exhale. Repeat.

With the world in chaos, NOW is the time to dive deeper into
your self
. Regardless of what’s happening outside of you,
there is a place inside of you that is calm, cool, and
connected; aka selfcentered. It’s always THERE. It’s always
OK. It’s always SAFE.

Going inside during these troubled times helps. Why? Because
it puts things in perspective. Though the outside world is
spinning out of control, the world inside is peaceful.
While our actions from the past might have been
the catalyst for our troubled times today, you see that new
creative choices are immediately available as you quiet the
mind chatter and open up to what’s possible.

Marianne Williamson once said: “You can’t solve the problems
of the world from the same state of consciousness that
created them.” I whole-heartedly agree, and with that in
mind, this is my challenge to you:

Meditate every single day without fail. Do it for you, do it
for your friends, do it for the world. If you don’t meditate
every day, contact us and we’ll get you on-track. If you
have a practice, stay strong with it. If you see people
struggling, send them our way. If there is one thing the
world needs right now, it’s to stay calm and centered within
the midst of chaos.

Much love,

Max Simon
Founder, Chief Enlightenment Officer

PS: If you need a little break from the intensity of your
world, we have 3 spots left at our meditation retreat on
October 10-12 in LA. This weekend is so powerful, so sweet,
and so deep. Please contact us for details.

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I showed you mine, now you show me yours … plus, win free coaching!

A few days ago, I laid it all on the line.  My hopes, my dreams, my fears. I heard from many of you about how inspired you were and how much you liked what I wrote.

But, what about you?

I can’t be the only one with big hairy audacious goals, can I?  What are your dreams?  Are you taking action on them?  How?

I want to hear from you!  To incentivize you to let it all hang out, let’s make it a contest!

Lots of people ask me if I’m still doing coaching or email me for help and guidance.  When I was doing it one on one, they paid $1,000/hour.  I don’t offer it anymore because I’m too busy building my businesses, publishing books and getting on TV.

But, I miss the feeling of being there, guiding someone and truly knowing I’m making a life-changing difference when that big a-ha comes along!  TV is great, but it’s kind of impersonal, ya know?

One tip from the right coach can save you months, if not years, of going down the wrong path.

So, post a comment about your big dreams and how you are taking action on them and I’ll pick the one that most inspires me for a one-on-one personal coaching session with me.

It can be around pinpointing your purpose, publishing a book, getting publicity or media, being a mompreneur, balancing work/life and still making your dreams come true, having it all, manifesting what you want, moving through fear or building your business. You pick.

So, let’s hear it!

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